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Reading this article here and being scolded by a dear friend about my recent lack or “real” articles I decided to write this.
Those of you out there wanting to make a contribution to the world and the society will at some point, sooner or later, be faced with a gigantic moral dilemma: you cannot save them all.
Now let’s be clear here, I am not talking about saving someone’s soul. I’m talking about the contribution you make to society may that be planting a tree, giving some spare change to a beggar, calling the ambulance for a homeless person crashed on the ground or saving someone’s life on the operating table or empowering people with inspiration and motivation.
However you choose to make your contribution there will come a time when your offer will be rejected.
Yes you heard me wright, some people will deny you helping them whether it’s medical assistance or a kind advice.
When faced with people refusing your help/contribution you’ll first feel powerless because you could not help. The powerless feeling will rapidly transform into frustration, because you cannot logically understand why a person in need would deny help.
And finally frustration will become hate. Hate towards the act of making a contribution, hate towards ungrateful people, hate towards people in general ’cause “they’re all ungrateful sobs”.
This is how a hater is born, well at least one of the processes.
You can easily avoid this painful process just by being self-aware of your mental reactions. When faced with the impossibility of making a contribution just acknowledge the fact that you cannot save them all and have the power to respect someone else’s wishes, we’re all responsible for our own happiness.
So next time you fail at helping, become stronger instead of becoming a hater!
Helped someone lately have you?
Cheddar Wizard said:
I tend to refuse help for a lot of things. Being Dependant on others is a very shameful for me. I understand that going solo on things isn't the way to go all the time, but it still bothers me.
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Teutorix said:
Nu stiam ca esti roman lol.
Ai dreptate si eu ma enervez destul pe genul asta de oameni.
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Les said:
I used to refuse help all the time, but I'm getting better at recognising when I'm in over my head.
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黄清华 Wong Ching Wah said:
Oh, well said.
I feel that all the time as a teacher …
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Vapor said:
I really bad at telling when girls want me to fix things or when they just want me to listen.
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eros said:
The playas gon’ play
Them haters gonna hate.
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temptation said:
I get your point. But why I shouldn't ease the hunger of a bagger even i i can't help everyone. And if he refuses the help i will don't care about it
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Poetry of the Day said:
i dont want to give u help, so there =]
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Zoe said:
I always try to do little things to make peoples day, small acts of kindness go a long way!
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thenitefalls said:
It's good to help as long as they help you out when the time comes!
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GADAFINY said:
Da si eu ma enervez atunci cind vreau sa ajut pe cineva si ma refuza (nici eu nu stiam ca esti roman)
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MRanthrope said:
I don't like needing to depend on others because…well frankly I don't trust many people, but I'm not above accepting help if I truly need it.
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mrecan said:
so true man. also nice advices
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Vlad said:
Awesome post mate. I don't think it reaches many people but it sure reached me…and Beatles on top of it all, good game :))))
Keep em coming
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A Hermit said:
I don't like being helped either, makes me feel bad
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Suciô Sanchez said:
I like being a hater.
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StockGuy said:
That's some really good advice.
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The Angry Lurker said:
It is definitely a return of help thing aswell.
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DutchAnon said:
lol, cant read half of the comments.
Wise words though ^^
Following.
http://dutchanon.blogspot.com/
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Toast said:
Save the ones you love. Everyone else that you can save is a bonus.
Greets,
http://www.honuniverse.blogspot.com
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Copyboy said:
Dude! You're as real as they come. Not sure what your friend meant by the comment. booo.
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Brut said:
Quality post smile. I just try to share knowledge and realizations I have with my man posts, I hope they help people.
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Doo said:
Interesting post. I agree pretty much with all in it. Great song in the end too!
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Tal Zahn said:
Haters gonna hate. 😉
But in all seriousness, I've gon through that cycle, but usually it is directed at single persons instead of everyone. it might also shy away my generosity some too, I'll admit.
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kkazzamm said:
Hell I just wish folks would man up and pull their fair share. Quite often at work I feel like the guy who is being taken advantage of. :<
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Betta sp said:
it's not easy as the talk. it's better to mind our own business….but sometimes other people's business is our own business
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Joe said:
you also can never make everybody happy
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